As Charlotte Bronte noted, “happiness quite unshared can scarcely be called happiness; it has no taste.” Naturally, humans are driven towards shared experiences over solo experiences, but what benefits do these experiences have for us? How do they help us to build friendships that last?
Psychological theories suggest that we are driven to be social for surviv
al, and this means that we naturally want to engage in a shared experience with others. In our modern society, loneliness and lack of shared experiences can have detrimental effects on our wellbeing and increase the incidences of mental illnesses like depression and anxiety. As well as this, in the quest to building strong friendships, shared experiences are a crucial part of this development.
So how exactly do shared experiences help us build friendships? There are a few ways.
First, shared experiences help to give us a focus in the early stages of friendships where we might otherwise not know what to talk about or may not quite be at ease with each other. It takes multiple meetings with people before we start developing friendships, so going on adventures and doing new things can help us to curate those meetings in a way that is less awkward and has a specific focus.
Secondly, shared experiences help to expand any common ground between people in a budding friendship, giving more things to talk about and reminisce about which makes future meetings easier. Engaging in many shared adventures, trying novel things together and pushing out of our comfort zones together helps to create these common experiences that a friendship can thrive from and that can be talked about long into the future.
Finally, shared experiences help to build trust. This is especially the case if the experience was adventurous or challenging, as during the experience we have to rely on each other to get through. This helps us to learn we can trust each other, and as trust is one of the most important cornerstones of any relationship, this is an incredibly important element to build between new friends.
By easing the early stages of friendship, building more common ground and developing trusting bonds, shared adventures and experiences are a key way to help us build new friendships. For your next catch up, why not try something new and adventurous?
At TribeUpp our experiences are specifically designed to be fun filled adventures, that create a shared experience, that will spark many conversations with your group many meetings afterwards and build trust between everyone. Check out our different experiences here.